Why I'll Never Judge Those Girls on Maury

You side-eyeing me? I'm not talking bout the chick that's on the show for the fourth time testing the 20th man still trying to find her baby daddy. I shouldn't judge her either but I'm human (read: a jerk) and I probably will sliiiiightly.

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But I'm talking about throwback Maury. The woman sitting on the stage with the dog leash around her neck while her boyfriend tells her to bark like a dog while we all watched and eye-rolled and yelled at the tv. "You're stupid!" ... "That'd never be me!"... "I'll never love anyone that much!". I guess some of us weren't prepared. 

  • Every 9 seconds in the US, a woman is assaulted or beaten.
  • 1 in 3 women have been victims of some form of domestic violence in their lifetimes. 
  • On a typical day there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
  • Women between 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.

Thats a lot of women pretending. Pre-judging. Not understanding. That was me ... Never imagining that at 18 I would allow someone to strip me down and force me to walk outside in the dead of winter with NO clothes on while everyone pretended not to hear me scream. While he held a knife to me and threatened to carve his name into my face. Not imagining that for almost 2 more years I'd stay. Because I was too scared to do anything else. And would anyone believe me? Or think I was stupid? Was it my fault?

Truth is.... you don't know anyone's story unless they tell it. Daytime TV is only the beginning of many peoples reality. 

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*Statistics from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence* 

For anonymous, confidential help, 24/7, please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1800.799.SAFE (7233) 

lifeTanay Howard